How to Make Friends 101

Today I'll be sharing some of my tips and tricks to make friends.


6/14/20233 min read

photo of three women lifting there hands \
photo of three women lifting there hands \

Having friends is a sign of sociality to all kids my age, or mostly teenagers. Being a friendless loner is so often romanticized in films that we assure ourselves that it is normal. But those of us who’ve actually experienced this deadly loneliness actually know it’s not all that. If you know, you know…

This loneliness kills. I mean, how would you feel if everyone around you laughed with their friends, ate lunch with them and went over to each other’s houses while you sat alone miserably? I’m glad those years are well behind me, now I’ve got a band of best friends who actually appreciate me for the real me and won’t talk behind my back. This might not be the case for everyone, though, so I’m here to help you! (Your Gen Z awkward cynical Godmother!)

A few tips and tricks to make friends:

1. Be yourself. I know, the most used trick in the book? Every adult tells you this, but trust me, it’s a good way to make those friends. You might be thinking “It’s a bad thing I’m so quirky then,”, but your quirks might just endear you to those judgemental peers. I’m not trying to offend people, but everyone has quirks in some way. My best friend and my other close friend are the quirkiest ever. My friends’ quirks make me laugh, and I suppose I make them laugh too. A perfect equilibrium, see? We goof around, not bothering who’s watching.

2. Look for people your age. If you don’t like any of your peers, maybe try your neighbours, parents’ friends’ children, cousins? Someone must be there for you to choose. Even your siblings might work, if you really don’t want to engage in small talk with your peers. The reason I’m saying this is that similarly-aged people tend to have same interests, and there’s no use befriending someone older or a child- you’ll simply have nothing to talk about.

3. Discuss hobbies. Art, collection, writing, anything you like, just mention it loudly in front of some likely future friends and see if anyone responds with “Oh, I do that too!” Boom! New friend. It’s as easy as that, and then you’ll have someone to draw or write with during lunch break. Better than moping alone in a corner any day, innit? This also works with music tastes, book recommendations, etc. The way I won over my ex-best friend was purely with our corresponding music tastes and geniality. Even though it didn’t last, I think it’s a good way to make friends.

4. Be supportive and cooperative. There’s nothing better than a classmate who helps you out and supports your actions, and your peers might think too. If you see someone struggling with their work, go ahead and help them, but mind, don’t do it all for them! If you have a peer who wants to do something (like start a club or a new hobby) and aren’t sure if anyone else will like it, just support them. They’ll warm up to you eventually. But keep this in mind: not everyone appreciates what you do so don’t overdo it.

5. Don’t push it. The thing we do when making new friends is hold onto someone who doesn’t deserve us. Don’t go looking for people who don’t want you- look for the ones that do. Don’t go sidling up to people who have the same taste in everything you have either if they’re jerks. You are a gem, so don’t let everyone ruin you because you don’t have friends. Opposites make good friends too, another example, me and my best friend, total opposites, opposite music taste, food, clothes, aesthetic, but we fit! No matter what type of taste they have, if they actually like you for who you are, that’s enough.

Now, I hope this article will help you on your path to true friendship, but remember that everyone is different and that you are a gem, not to be used by someone who’s just after street cred. As the saying goes, the stars incline us, they don’t define us. So do friends.

Dihaan Khan, signing out.