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How to Cope with Losing a Friend

How to navigate the deep waters of losing someone close.

dihaan k~

7/9/20231 min read

Love is A Losing Game text
Love is A Losing Game text

Damn. This won’t be a hard one to write, I’ve been through it PLENTY. From friends moving to different continents, to moving to another school, to leaving them because they were generally horrible and manipulative, I’ve found that having friends abandon you or leaving them yourself hurts quite a bit. A study shows that people lose half of the friends they make in their lifetime.

The dragging anticipation of the decision, the breaking up, final farewell, and the slow, sluggish, depressing hours that follow the break are to be noted. Perhaps there is more for others, I was never a very emotional person. Maybe the hours feel slow, maybe we have an emotional breakdown, maybe we spend the next few weeks feeling the deep void that they have left. Maybe or maybe not we make new friends, maybe or maybe not we remember them in the years to come. It’s horrible nonetheless.

Coping mechanisms are different in everyone. For some it’s humour, for others it’s being alone, for yet more it’s throwing themselves into work or a hobby. In this article, I’ll show you how to get over losing someone that was close to you.

Come to terms with it. Instead of bottling your emotions in a bottle, try to understand what has happened and get over it. You could write about it in a diary, perhaps vent to someone about. The main thing to do is understand and move on.If we hide it forever, it’ll turn into an unhealthy obsession, and by then we’ll probably desire revenge on that individual, or offer up everything to have them back. This places us at the very bottom of the pyramid, at their feet.

Talk it over with someone you trust. Someone we trust, a parent, a sibling, a partner, a therapist. Anyone we trust wholeheartedly and love, who will hear us out while not being judgemental, these type of people. This way, the weight will be lifted off our shoulders, and we can be comforted by someone. We’ll also gain perspective on why and how it happened.

How, why, and what? How did it happen? Why did it happen? What made it happen? Spewing your guts over the tiny details may seem excruciating after the sorrow it made you feel, but you’ll find that after you’ve been through everything, you’ll feel more at peace. Whether or not it was your fault, you have to…

…Let go. We can’t hold onto someone who wants to leave, so our best bet is to make peace with the things we can’t change. Blocking them on social media isn’t the best reaction- it’s just childish and makes us feel ashamed of our quick reaction. Spewing sad messages, come-back calls, or angry tweets are worse. All we can do is let them go and make peace with ourselves.

Letting someone go, especially someone close is not an easy task. But when loving them is a losing game, we must be prudent to leave the arcade.

Dihaan Khan,

Signing out.